I Guess I Am Not Alone

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I Guess I'm Not Alone

When united, veterans create one of the most powerful voting blocs in the country… In the area of advice and help, I am convinced veterans as a group are the most active of any group in the country. This post below from our Sierra Juliet is an example of our commitment to each other.

 

I Guess I Am Not Alone

Written by Sierra Juliet

This post is dedicated to all of the readers who left those amazing comments on my last post about being re-victimized by a VA therapist.  I want everyone reading this to know that I do read ALL of your comments and I am extremely grateful for your support.  I went through the comments and made a condensed list of the advice and knowledge that you shared:

 

Patient Rights – Amend Your VA Medical Records

How to exercise your PATIENT RIGHTS and request that your medical records be amended:

  • Go to the Release of Records (ROR) office in the VA facility where your health records are currently maintained, and request a copy of your complete medical record.  Be prepared to wait a few weeks for your records to be mailed to you.
  • Once you finally receive your records, go through them with a fine-tooth comb.  If you happen to find any errors or inaccuracies, you have the right to request that your health record be amended.
  • The ROR office should be able to provide you with the correct form(s) for this type of request.  Save yourself another trip and ask for the forms when you request your records.  Hopefully you won’t need them, but if you do, you’ll have them on hand.  Also, here is a useful VA.gov link describing how you can get access to your medical information: http://www.va.gov/vhapublications/viewpublication.asp?pub_id=1089
  • Request your GAF Score Summary.  The Global Assessment of Functioning (GAF) is a numeric scale (0 through 100) used by mental health clinicians and physicians to rate subjectively the social, occupational, and psychological functioning of adults.  It’s always wise to know exactly what you’re up against.  Request your summary and know what they know!
  • One veteran suggested that we read the book The Veteran’s PTSD Handbook, written by John D. Roche.  I actually have another of Roche’s books titled: The Veteran’s Survival Guide, and I absolutely love it.  I will definitely look into his PTSD handbook. He’s a great veteran’s advocate, he’s pretty much a guru on all veteran/VA related topics , and his work is highly recommended!

Fight the Rotten Therapist

As far as advice for dealing with a rotten therapist, you have all encouraged me to continue to fight, and here are some of the suggestions in a nutshell:

  • Report her to the patient advocate.
  • If the patient advocate can’t or won’t help, then report both of them to whoever is next in the chain of command, and keep climbing if need be.  In fact, one veteran even suggested calling the White House for assistance, which is an interesting idea that I might try if push comes to shove.  If not the White House, then maybe a local pro-veteran politician.
  • Request to be assigned to a new therapist, which I ultimately did by giving up on VA mental health altogether.  Instead, I found a private civilian therapist, and I am so glad that I made that decision.  Although it’s a shame that I have to pay out-of-pocket for military related traumas, I now have the freedom to say whatever is on my mind without fear of reprisal.

Again, I thank ALL of you for your encouragement and advice.  The community that Ben has created through this website is one of the best veteran communities that I’ve ever been a part of, and I am so proud to be amongst all of you.  Until next time, be well and keep the comments coming.

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James Edward Vernon jr.
James Edward Vernon jr.

S.J., THE GOVT IS “BIG BUSINESS”, BUT WE ARE THEIR “BOSSES”. AS THE BOARD OF DIRECTORS WE MUST FIND AND WEED OUT THOSE “PRACTICES” THAT ARE NOT HELPFUL AND BUILD UP THOSE THAT ALLOW AMERICA TO BE AMERICA. TOGETHER WE CAN PUT THE ” I CAN” BACK IN AMERICAN.(NOT AFRO, ASIAN, MEXICAN OR ANY OTHER PREFACE)WE ARE ALL JUST PLAIN OLD “AMERICANS”

Denise
Denise

Totally agree. But, we are special Americans. “WE SERVED.” George W. Bush didn’t serve. How do I know? Being medical, again, you have to have a flight physical by a flight surgeon for ANYONE on flight status! Not your personal doc. And Romney? He avoided the war with his religion. He was in France, doing
Missionary work, each time his,number came up, gee, he got extended, until his number fell off the rolls! Trust me, the Vietnam vets who served were mostly poor, not having a rich daddy with connections to keep them off the rolls! And I about threw up when the Anti-christ George W. , landed on the carrier! Damn liar!

Tim Conway
Tim Conway

Sadly said had same numbing experience you encountered with Psychiatrist at VA a few years ago. Here is whats really sad, I already had diagnosis, and had 15 years of great treatment outside of VA. We lost our health insurance, and as a 100% SVC Vet sought treatment within the VA. Initially had great Doctor until he transferred. Then a roller coaster ride bumped me around for two years. Saw patient advocate, and now have great Doctor whose concerned, has me on right meds that used to be on which worked the best for me. However, that took me another two years of fighting to get right medication.

I say you go and wish you all the best with your argument and success with all of it.
Be well for self and rest of us too.

David Rapaport
David Rapaport

I hate hearing about the VAs MH problems. I’m one of the fortunate ones. My Psychiatrist and therapist have been with me since the beginning in 2006. My experience has been that the VA as an organization is there to help us and overall it succeeds. Unfortunately, there are pinheads, Vets and non-Vets on staff that can make our recoveries and services the worst nightmares in our lives.

Lawrence Kelley III
Lawrence Kelley III

If you have a “rotten” therapist, I think I have better advice than pursuing the VA “chain of command.” Every medical doctor in the VA system has his or her license through the state Medical Licensing Board or state Dept. of Health, as here in Florida. IF the therapist has indeed committed “unethical” behavior in any way, the very best thing to do is file a complaint with your state medical licensing board or other entity that controls the licenses of medical doctors, whether for physical or mental health issues. That starts a record with the state and if the complaint is valid enough, the doctor can receive sanctions or other disciplinary measures. After enough complaints, the state will yank the doctors license.

I can also share you what I’ve learned about VA doctors who receive too many complaints through their state medical licensing board — the VA will either terminate the doctor OR tell him or her that they will have to accept a transfer to another VA facility, one that is likely way out in the middle of nowhere. Now, that’s a great way to banish a rotten therapist or get the VA to take action that it otherwise would not.

People need to understand that a great many doctors in the private sector are very well aware of the horror stories veterans suffer at the hands of VA doctors. The same goes for the people who run these state medical board licensing bodies. They also know and are likely very sympathetic to complaints by veterans or their family members. The VA’s rotten, lousy reputation is all over the news everywhere. Make that common knowledge work for you by going straight to the source of their medical licensing entity.

Another sad fact I discovered, the VA has an active program whereby they recruit doctors who have been sued for medical malpractice — and cannot get medical malpractice insurance due to that fact. It is estimated that as many as 40% of all VA doctors over 40 years old have been sued for medical malpractice and no insurance company will touch them with a 10-foot pole.

One last thing. You can also ask your state medical licensing board what OTHER states the doctor practiced in before being issued a license in their state. The application they are required to fill out discloses this information. File a records request for the doctors application and specifically state that you want to see what other states the doctor has practice in. Will the shell game the VA plays to retain bad doctors, you can bet that the doctor who screwed you over has a history with the medical boards in other states. Once armed with That specific information, you can include it in your complaint to the VA patient advocate and others in the VA system who receive and review VA patient complaints. Its puts pressure on them to take action since they know that you KNOW that the doctor has a bad history elsewhere. And sit back and watch what happens. I think you’ll be quite pleasantly surprised.

Joey Anderson
Joey Anderson

Lawrence Kelley III – I generally agree with your advice. Just one word of caution: In some states you can get in trouble for filing a “frivilous” (unfounded) complaint. Check your inidividual state’s licensing law for the particular discipline of the mental health professional (e.g., Board of Medicine, Board of Psychology, etc.). So don’t file a licensing complaint just to “get back at” a therapist, doctor, or C&P examiner. (Btw, I’m not saying that anyone here has done that). They can only accuse you of a frivilous complaint if there is no evidence of wrong-doing, which in most veterans’ cases like the author described will not be a problem.

Also, you wrote “…the VA has an active program whereby they recruit doctors who have been sued for medical malpractice — and cannot get medical malpractice insurance due to that fact. It is estimated that as many as 40% of all VA doctors over 40 years old have been sued for medical malpractice and no insurance company will touch them with a 10-foot pole.”

Do you have evidence for that assertion? I highly doubt that the VA would have an “active program” specifically designed to find and hire doctors sued for malpractice. It would be a public relations nightmare for one thing.

Denise
Denise

Robby, yes, sometimes it is very difficult to communicate, especially if I have gone through a wonderful Fibromyalgia moment, except my apologies, it affects a whole ton of issues that makes it difficult to communicate. ( I call it my pain brain syndrome, because it cycles what happens with what the body feels to kick off the damn brain crap! Yes, pissed about it, but, life!) Since I do have “severe pain” in my lower spine & 3 spine surgeries ( all done by an excellent doctor I worked a short time for, he did a great job, but a car accident on 2/282014, I began a slow decline, and I can say this, I have a professor who will back me up on my back, as well as my other nightmares, as well as a few other that fear not our system of delay and call a patient a liar. Also, my t-spine that took me forever to convince then, “I feel something isn’t right!” They stated positioning, gee, true statement, as in all positions to date? Yes, was given a discharge paper work of my 3 whole papers of my discharge paperwork, requested all my medical records, which means that “official copy” given to the Medical Petty Officer, gee, admitted by Waco, TX had my reserve medical records but my “official copy” is gone? Are you kidding me?
Lawrence, I agree with you in many ways. You need to find however the state the person has a license in! They do not have to be for the state they are practicing in! BIG DEAL, THINK ABOUT IT! One case I knew of that involved rape, all she could remember was the guy was uncircumcised. Of course she got denied, and I got these damn jerks figured out-they send a letter, “your case is so much involved it will take longer to come to a conclusion.” ( my ass, they respond in less than a month) it took her almost 20 years to get her rating. Why? Well gee, the VA moved the guy to another VA-how convenient, but, bad move and a 50/50 good thing. He was watched taking a patient who appeared drunk, people watched, he decided, “damn time to achieve his favorite pass time,” only this time he was reported, thank goodness right? My issue, it sucks to be raped period, but it sucks that what the VA had done by moving him, by allowing another, ( or plenty others who knows truly) now what did they do to this guy? He can no longer practice medicine. Okay, I am sorry, being medical, I think he should have been placed in a damn jail cell to rot. Why? Let us be realistic drugs can be had on the streets, across the border, so did we just let the “monster” go free? That to me states the VA cannot recognize its idiot minds in charge that people like this who have a repetitive behavior should not be let loose regardless of a license or not! ( did they ever consider this idiot to have a supply at home of these drugs, because I have met a few that do?)
Patient Advocate-“who do they work for?” If you think they really give a holy shitload about you? Guess again! Been there done that-( added an addendum to my record by the nurse and the advocate who stated, “yup, she stated such!” And just FYI-I do not argue a “statement.” Which was very clear, “I have talked to my rep-useless, but don’t think I will ever fear congress or the house!” I don’t fear POTUS either!
It is a fact, read before Ben posted it because when my mind cycles I seem to wonder all over the place reading the strange and bizarre!
But, a C&P claim, my back? Denied? Why? No date-okay who gets that idiot award of the next twenty years? Because regardless what it states, the year itself states an injury took place-( don’t you just love that a social worker put MST event? Oh, shall I have a wee bit of fun!)
But another one-for my PTSD and MST issues. I had told my doctor of 19 years how crappy treatment I was getting, he, who had been a top dog in Hospital Administration and isn’t into the political crap of it-let me add smart, loves deep space photography, calls me the “flower child” born a bit late, a Buddhist Monk at one time, and an active Buddhist individual, who believes highly in meditation, I told him what I had done. ( remember this, doing meditation at 17, and probably before just had no clue regarding it called such) I regressed my own person, reminding myself as I went deep of each movie, it can no longer hurt me, and let them play unless I start to “feel” the anguish of pain. It turned out great! Now understand, no, those moments were not great, however details I couldn’t recall came up front and center. Now, I told him, I know this not a cure, I know I still will need counseling lord hopefully not for life! But what it also did was bring forth the good memories-and those memories some may freak, some may think no wonder, exact opposite. “EMPATHY” you either have it or you don’t! And what I’ve seen at that Dallas VA, forget amending, how about delivering pink slips well deserved? If you keep on hiring crappy people, you’ve done nothing to improve the “mentally ill VA’s.” Now, remember, not all, but a whole hell of a lot of!
Lawrence, did I see you mention a Dr. Pena? I am interested if you did and compare notes-“TRUST ME, A DAMN GOOD REASON FOR IT!”
Now, the C&P for my PTSD AND MST? Screw suing the VA! a SUE THE IDIOT WHO CAN’T TYPE, USE SPELL CHECK, ( yes, I admit it, I do screw up, human I am, be glad I don’t write letters, drove my mom insane because my brain was faster than the hand-now my brain makes me think damn hard!) I THINK IT WOULD BE A COMPLETE EMBARRASSMENT TO THE VA AND WACO, THAT THE PERSON WHO DID THIS HAD NOT REALIZED THAT THE PAIN SPIKES MY BLOOD PRESSURE, SO NOT MUCH SLEEP, STARTING INTO OR OUT OF THAT DAMN FIBRO FOG, DECIDED TO TAKE IT UPON HERSELF TO ANSWER QUESTIONS THAT I HAD ANSWERED. THAT WHEN I STATED “ACTS LIKE A MAFIA BOSS,” CLUE, ASK NO MORE FOR I SHALL NOT GO THERE. TO ASK ABOUT MY MOM, I ANSWERED, BUT A BIT MORE DETAIL ON HER END, WOULD HAVE MADE HER REALIZE, I WAS NO LONGER LIVING AT HOME. AND “THE ACTRESS” IN THE FAMILY, ( BOTTOM FEEDER WORSE THAN PLANKTON BUT HECK THATS GOING QUICK TOO) WAS THE STEP ON EVERYONE SISTER WITH HER SO SWEET VOICE, SO “FOS.” ( I am almost 8 years older than her, as in 2 months and 3 days) THAT MY YOUNGEST SISTER, Again not full blood relation, but her? I really do care about!-WHO GETS USED BY THE MIDDLE ONE AND COULD END HER CAREER REALLY QUICK! SHE WORRIES ME, WHY? SHE HAS A MENTAL ILLNESS, AND I SO CARE FOR HER, BUT SINCE THE DISRUPTIVE BEHAVIORS, OUTRIGHT DAMN LIES, I CANT DO A THING ABOUT IT.
Understand all, I’ve been an extremely independent woman most of my life. Those back surgeries? Damn things, I was just excepted to Texas A&M, yes with all the honors ( I careless about) and thought, okay, can you put my file on hold till this is done. Well, they can’t hold it forever!
Now, 16 years later, it sounds nuts, again, excepted, again, hold me back status-thinking, “maybe time to transfer out of state!”
You see, for whatever reason, in such a very ” short period of time,” my answers changed, a DSM diagnosis that damn lady, you seem to have the screw loose, because their is no way in hell can you make that assessment, in such a short period of time, and call yourself a “professional.” I happen to know a few, one the head of the department, as well as a professor who could chew her up and spit her out in 5 seconds! But when you decide you can answer my questions, especially when I answered the opposite and yes, glasses on because in less than 7 minutes, my damn sunglasses clip didn’t help the onslaught of a migraine. She did not see my tears, I quickly wiped off, because in life, at least for me the free spirited jump in the car and go, I would now need assistance in areas that wounded my stubborn, hard headed, I can teach my self and will prove I can, had to admit to several defeats in one year. You think it’s easy? Lucky you. But since they would not allow me to upload documents, and since like hell a rape kit, ( yes, we all know that sperm stays in the uterus – mine is gone forever right? It is one hell of a sick game. My doctor would be writing them. He sees my pain, he notices I am trying to relax, but he sees my disconnect happening, it is not funny at all. It is sad they appoint idiots, and they have my GAF score ( which I thought to be obsolete) but to say, no assault, no rapes, because no damn records-“THE PROOF OF BURDEN LIES UPON YOU IDIOTS TO FIND THEN WHEN A BASE HAS BEEN DEMOLISHED AKA ORLANDO FLORIDA, PLANK OWNER OF THAT HOSPITAL AND MY DAUGHTER BORN THERE IS NOW A VA HOSPITAL WHICH I KNEW YEARS AGO VISITING A FRIEND THERE! ( go figure!)
If you wish to lie know this, “lying is considered fraud-as you’re giving a fraudulent statement as if under oath. Waste-this is a wasting of government resources because you shall rotate the Veteran back into the system, keeps someone’s check happy! Abuse, now how does Abuse fit in-simple. When you abuse your authority to “keep the cycle going” and you’ve lied, you’ve committed fraud to do it, you have abused your authority by doing all of the above. When you state, “patient quit going to therapy,” well no duh idiot! It wasn’t therapy! You cannot say “listen up class, yes we know a land mine went off, and a few of your class mates killed, but let us have a happy thoughts time and redirect our focus!” It doesn’t work like that, nor has any therapist who studied from years ago ever stated a “treatment” for therapy.
I shall say this-becarefull and very observant. That means, watch how they operate, I myself would not prefer a “gaping open wound with puss coming out, and a “sorry, ran out of the stuff to clean it, no sutures for it, but we do have bandaids! I shall take a pass. And I was seeing a person on the outside, but damn if I can sit so long in an office! I pay big time for it! Just one more email to the OIG OR FBI-TAKE YOUR PICK! As stated, a “whistle I shall have, and not a damn fear to blow!” ( and damn straight not to be able to practice anywhere on the damn planet! Maybe they can be “Palin Pals!”

Denise
Denise

Joey,
Sorry I had not responded earlier, between doctors appointments both VA and my regular Doctor of 19 years. ( who thinks the VA must be not able hear the patient speak and then ask questions) yes, I certainly know for a fact that many of these doctors, and I wouldn’t be surprised as more than just doctors but “other professionals.” But since this was a post from awhile ago, it now has been proven my statement is a fact.

Here I the “one thing” I disagree with big time. When you say amend the record, you are asking a doctor to reword the remarks. I do not know how they can attempt it especially if it is an outright lies. All “lies should remain in tact and you can put a statement disputing the record and with coinciding information. It should be “APPEND THE RECORD!” Why should the VA be giving any chances they are not to be held with their feet to the fire of hellish lies? So, yes you can write up a statement, and that statement was a strong message that a social worker who would not shut up and listen, she made detiriminations regarding my failed back syndrome which came with a gift a nerve damaged leg. She stated it was an MST event? Is she a doctor now? You see she has weaved a story that does not correlate even with dates of where I was stationed. Rather important I would say! But you see because of “what she said,” it maybe August until my goal of treatment will be achieved. To see a spine specialist. My back was injured performing my job, there is no PTSD/MST about it! Her words actually has created a long convoluted story and makes me appear as an opioid addicted freak! See, that is a problem for me, because I don’t take them everyday, I take them when the pain is to severe for me alone as well as my mind cannot resolve it. And what these idiots didn’t know, the pain medication I take, I take with caution, because of a reason, I flip fast when developing an allergy to it. As well as knowing how it can effect the liver and kidneys.
But this a BIG REASON why I use as needed, I am 2% of the population who can have the opposite reaction, never got tired but always got “wired.” It was that way from the start but I kept thinking, one day it would make me sleep! Nope! And I do not enjoy if my hand is forced, to take that damn pill at night because it means no sleep “enjoy!” Any stronger meds they had me on years ago, I weaned my self off them, but I am medical so I know how to do it. And trust me, this is one HUGE reason, I do not like the “new ( a way to make more money) of pain management doctors. You’d think if I saw eight, which is true, that there would be some consistency to what they do, but there is not. Do I tell them about the others I’ve seen in two other states? No, I don’t. Because I wish to hear what “wonderful treatments” even all nautaral ones I have tried and then some, they will manage my pain. It is not in my head, I wish it were. It truly is my back, but vague CT-Scans not using contrast as they should, and as “suggested strongly to” by a radiologist they’d get it. But one thing I expressed, my T-Spine. A radiologist could see something but it may have to do with positioning. ( on my side) then a CT-Scan with no contrast, damn! This guy saw it too and stated the same thing, my positioning! That time flat on my back and I can’t lay flat, it really hurts like hell.
I will write up there lies, and state, “this is why I came here, it would not take me THREE MONTHS, to notice bladder distention! That is an idiot! It would take me 48’s and maybe less, and yup, my private doctor of 19 years.
So they may add my statement of I disagree and your FOS, but I am a little smarter and they will know it, because I bring a “witness.” How can they argue with a male who deals with facts, was highly decorated in the USMC,” and just recently his wife the constant sea widow was informed someone else topped his record! And this was pretty recent so that is a long stretch to hold one. It is like the idiot nurse who asked, “why are you here again?” You bet he chimed right up! And he also “heard me very clearly, no thanks that gel doesn’t work, don’t need it, no thanks to the heating pad as I have four at home. You see, you are an adult, my mind works well, so she should have honored my request, I can go in a hospital and say later in the ER and go AMA which is Against Medical Advice. They are racking bills, bills that I the patient will not pay, trust me, that is the knowledge of facts and the realities of lies and equates to? FRAUD WASTE AND ABUSE. As I’ve always have stated, I have a whistle, and it does blow.

disgusted
disgusted

Unfortunately, the steps you outlined the Va has in place in VA Handbook are not followed by the highest levels. I have filled out two requests over a year time to ammend a completely dangerous incorrect diagnosis listed as my service connected diagnosis. Had a VA Dr. even state in record I did not have condition. The wrong condition listed has the same ICD 9 code as the correct disorder. The proper step is for VA to respond in writing in 10 days with approval or denial and the right if denied to go to The Office of General Council. I was never even granted a response my request was recieved by the VA Hospital. TWICE! I had lawyer who is assisting me with a disability claim inquire and he too was ignored. VA refused to answer in writing. Congressmen or other Gov. agency is useless.
I gave SERIOUS reason for the correction. I could be treated for something I don’t have and not treated for something I do have. Esp. if I could not speak for myself.
My best advice is to use the VA only when absolutely needed. An outside Dr. won’t save you money but will give you peace of mind and in some cases your life. Oh the horror stories I could tell over 20 years of VA care or the lack of. Some times I wonder if this lack of care is displayed to intentionally push us away to conveniently be able to keep costs low.
P.S. Do a search of state license board for treating providers. I refused care because the Dr. had violations against his license.

Denise
Denise

Not even in the system a year, my response? “And I should be surprised how?” As stated, the doctor I had made several errors and assumptions. The Hippocratic Oath of “DO NO HARM” well, she could have really messed me up. I came in for back pain, nothing more. Yet she was convinced I needed all these tests and to be seen by internal medicine? Um, yeah, wrong answer! So, complaints I will all over the place, and hopefully she gets suspended for her assumptions and not doing her job!

Scott Gibboney
Scott Gibboney

Most of the doctors and therapists have done outstanding work in my favor. But it has gotten ugly when the administration up stairs doesn’t want to here of my evidence for claims.There is a great deal of US home bases that had chemical and atomic contamination. Congress should have notified many vets but instead they spent millions of superfund dollars covering it up. I figure if ever vet got what was due the government would go broke. If you were stationed in America for any amount of years check out to see if your old base was a superfund site. The EPA sites tell a story of genuine corruption from the West coast to the East. ( This includes other US territories ) Best of luck with your claims.

Denise
Denise

Oh trust me, I have my ammo ready to go! Yes, it will go t “top” of the Dallas VA, both for PTSD AND MST, then a doctor who never asked my history, a must with a,new patient, told me I was passing kidney stones, gee, being I was medical and know if I were? I would have felt it! I came in for my back, 3 surgeries, I know something is wrong. She wanted an MRI, I said sure, if I am sedated! So she ordered a CT Scan, now, still worried about my kidneys, but it was about my back. Now, talking to a doctor, he stated I had alot of “stool” in the scan. Well duh! My system should have been cleaned out with a drink called “go lightly.” ( trust me, nothing light about it.) Then sending me drugs in the mail never telling me? Yes, report to VA. Report to state boards, report to white house, and NO FEAR ATTITUDE HERE! I suggests we ban together! The tech even knew that certain alloys in the metal react to MRI’s. Now, if she would have asked my history, she would have listened,when I stated I did not drink enough, cut me off, I have reflux grade 2 so, plenty of liquids a must. I swear, a march, a wheelchair, a bed, we do a Dr. King move with Lincoln behind us! And I had to go to a well woman check, why? Did she ask why I might not need one? I had a hysterectomy at 28. Duh again! Even the doctor today stated you don’t really need to
do this. Really? Okay, my tyrade is not over, it is just the beginning! Just like today with my VRAP. I kept asking, why do I have to take computers? Now mind you, this idiot thought because he was a,man he could intimidate me. WRONG! It stated, computer 12cl exempt. I had no clue what that meant! My
intention was to take June off. My year was very rough, a car accident, a death of my favorite uncle, then dealing with “the godfather” angry dad. So rude to tell me to call him when I got home. Um not 5 years old! This set off all the 32 year lock up of those events. Because daddy dearest sided,with the guy who beat me up, but also this same guy threatened to kill me? Yeah, let’s just say, he is not my dad, he is some warped man who hung around his mafia friends too much to think I would bend to his will! So, busy day tomorrow. And that idiot at the school? I emailed him back and told him I had his number awhile ago. Oh, I have a memory, and he is lacking when it comes to helping vets! Texas instated a law in 2011 the computers had to be retaken if more than so many years. BUT, being a Veteran, I was exempt! When did I find out? When I registered for spring courses,in December 2013. Veterans deserve much better care all the way around! Don’t,give up the fight! Remember, we are a “unit, a team, and those willing to die for our country!” We deserve better. Want to go for it? Pass numbers! 🙂 stay strong, don’t give up the fight! Denise

Denise
Denise

Oh, and just FYI, I had a nickname because I stood my ground many times, “psycho bitch from hell.” Okay, you can say, damn mad, and she is back ready to fight! I worked Obama’s campaign, I even have a recorded live message thanking us, so turn about is fair play, time for him to help me and other veterans now! 🙂

Robby Robinson
Robby Robinson

Denise, bless you for your trials and tribulations, you are indeed a survivor and you are an empowered woman.
Nevertheless, I am not abele to understand exactly what you are trying to convey. Your sentences are a bit scrambled. Please clarify. I strongly feel your story must be told, but I for one cannot understand exactly what is going on with you and what has transpired through your experience with the VA

God bless you young lady!

GERALD E STRONG JR ,STEPHEN E STRONG BARBARA FORD (STRONG)
GERALD E STRONG JR ,STEPHEN E STRONG BARBARA FORD (STRONG)

TODAY I HAD STRANGE PHONE CALL FROM A SOCIAL WORK UP FROM BUFFALO VETERAN HOSPITAL MAYBE SOMEONE IS GONNA FINALLY LISTEN TO BEFORE I GO ON NATIONAL TV AND TELL MY STORY

Denise
Denise

Just fyi, careful. I’ve been on some Facebook sites stating the inconsistent care across the country. I also stated, “if you truly do the job and therapies correctly, then you won’t have a “revolving door effect which leads to job security.” WOW! One nurse, mental health, didn’t know her location stated she wanted to serve her country, another guy stated yes its all about the money and benefits, and I wanted a soapbox platforn.” My answer to them both, “I stated, care should be the same for every veteran across the country, did you not read that part? And yes, you do have “job security and benefits, because I doubt you had to miss meals because medicine was more important, or be cold or too hot because we couldn’t pay the bill same for water.” No response of course. I brought up the “facts of my case, no men, stuck me with men, why? A tests? DBT cognitive therapy, read up, strongly, and in a text book super emphasized, one on one treatment first, not a doctor who says nothing, doesn’t look you in the eyes until I slammed her with the “facts!” It wasn’t a soapbox, I was telling others if care isn’t working, let me know, I can help direct you to a site. One woman, I did help! She was banned from getting treatment. Her sons sent a necklace to a Social Worker they never knew and lived over a thousand miles away. She got banned. BUT, the same Social Worker sent her son and husband who bought her 300-400 dollars worth of groceries! I told her, nope, your sons didn’t know, but, SHE KNOWS that she is not to give out your address to family members, nor buy you food, in fact, Social Workers are NOT to do anything without the consent of a client so the client is empowered to make decisions UNLESS the client is having thoughts of killing themselves! So, I told her who to contact, skip the damn VA on this one, NASW because she committed several offenses, and she cannot act alone when deciding treatment at a VA. This woman was also accosted in a VA bathroom by a Lesbian in treatment. She has MS so moving fast is an issue, and she told the person not your type, she told the Social Worker, and gee, ain’t it grand how they felt she lied? Tread lightly with trust. I only say that because some of these same helpers “troll rooms.” Not saying bad intent, but interview the hell out of them and get a list going as well! Ask the type of treatments offered, don’t agree right away, asks how they are done. Then go home, google it, and if all is to YOUR SATISFACTION, proceed! 🙂 I want the best for Veterans, why would I study Social Work if I didn’t? Blessings and good luck, I truly want the best for each! Denise

Terry
Terry

From my experience, I would not recommend complaining to a patient advocate. It didn’t do me any good, and I was retaliated against by the doctor. They have made my life a living hell. It got so bad I had to change doctors, but that didn’t do any good because he went and badmouthed me to everyone that would listen. I live with chronic pain, with my daily pain level being a 7 or 8, they refuse to treat me so I’ve been left to suffer . . . an absolute nightmare that you probably wouldn’t believe if I told you the whole story. Just be careful and think about it before you complain.

sharon
sharon

Terry I understand whole heartily my husband is going through the same thing.
It got so bad that last Wednesday he attempted to commit suicide and has been committed to a hospital.
The V.A. is a mess and they really dont care.
I wish the best for you but please dont give up.

Sharon

Nick Savage
Nick Savage

I always make three copies of my letters, I send them to the VA OIG, the patient advocate and the Administrator, If I don’t get a sufficient reply I will use my prepaid legal to have them send a letter, I will send to Jaco and another organization.

Remember some of those don’t warrant a complaint, that is not the type of complaints they handle but the reason I do it is because they have to investigate no matter what.

They have tried to retaliate but I make there life a living hell. I will stay at the VA all day and do walk in to mental health and primary care till I get what I want. I will call and bug patient advocates, sit at there office door, I will visit director’s all day long.

Basic point is if they don’t like it, fix me or get out of the job.